Hey y’all!
I’m J aka the Middle Schooler/High schooler who’s been homeschooled for a few years now. Few years? Nah we been at this since the beginning. Being an African American and Latino pre-teen at home has been… interesting, to say the least. There are definitely some big wins that make it worth it. Can you believe my mom let me guest write on her blog this month???? Anyways here’s my take:
The Highs
Go at My Own Speed
I can zoom through math when it clicks, and slow down on the parts that trip me up. No rushing, no judgment, just learning at a pace that finally makes sense.
Sleep? Yes Please
Sometimes I sleep in till 9… okay, once I even started school at 12. My mom wasn’t thrilled, but hey no alarm clocks, no freezing bus rides, just me and my cozy bed.
Learning My Way
I get to explore stuff I actually care about like African American history, coding, or books by Black authors. That freedom makes school way more interesting than endless worksheets and lectures.
Family Time = Bonus
Being home means more family time. We celebrate wins together, talk about tough stuff, and I don’t feel like just another student lost in a crowd.
Video Games = Study Break (Mostly)
One of the best perks? Gaming after I finish my work. Picture this: it’s Friday afternoon, I’ve crushed all my lessons, and I’m ready for Apex on my Switch.
But then I see it: 2-hour time limit.
AHHHHHHHHH! Seriously, Mom?! I just aced algebra! Outside I’m like, “I’m good.” Inside? Total meltdown.
That’s life with an overprotective mom—always worried about too much screen time, too much sugar, too much everything. She means well, but sometimes I just want to breathe. Even with her rules, gaming still feels like the ultimate homeschool reward.
The Real Deal
Okay, now that I knocked out all the fun stuff, let me tell you the truth: homeschooling is hard work. It’s not all gameschooling and sleeping in.
Most homeschoolers do school year-round lighter in the summer, heavier during the regular school year. And every state has its own requirements. I’m fortunate my mom, like a lot of moms, stays on top of it.
What’s been great recently is that my parents are letting me chart my own course. No class, no teacher, no book, no outing is decided without me having a say. It feels like a preview of college, where you pick your own classes and set your own goals. My mom always says, “You have to want it for yourself.” I am working on my time management and its coming along nicely I might say so myself. My mom and dad let me drop the live Honors Biology class. It was moving too slow and the live classes were just doing the labs. I don’t need to sit in a class to do a lab. So I elected to do the pre-recorded class and that way I don’t have to log on, take time away from other things. I do the lab turn in my report and BOOM I am done!! I take classes online with John Hopkins Center for Talented Youth, this has been a HUGE game changer for me.
I’m not wasting my time, my parents’ time, or their money. We’re a team that’s what makes this work. My mom told me she had to give herself a reality check too, because at the end of the day, the stakes are mine. That means no wasting time or money on things that don’t move me toward my end goals. Ultimately, my parents get the final say but trust me, my voice is always in the mix. I am also navigating friendships and socialization differently this year.
Cellphone
I still don’t have a cellphone, but my parents are moving to get me a Gabb Wireless phone, because my Gabb watch has gone crazy!! Like seriously it has gone bonkers doing all kinds of weird things. My Gabb watch was good to me over the last several years and I loved it. I am okay with not having a phone at the moment, but since my homeschool groups tends to do activities that parents just drop off, my parents have decided for safety reasons it time to upgrade. Gabb has been trusted by my family for a few years now. I agree, I have no need for social media and all the stuff that has turned kids into phone zombies. So just like my Gabb Watch it will be just for communication with my parents and few trusted friends.
Beyond the Books
Outside of video games, I’m staying busy. I’m on a debate team, part of a teen law program, into public speaking, and I volunteer at our local masjid. I also tutor younger kids, which keeps me sharp and gives back to my community. I recently joined a program for young black and brown aviators. I also still do piano.
Homeschooling doesn’t mean being stuck at home either I’m fully engaged in my homeschool group and we travel a lot as a family these days. We just got back from a mini trip. We’re headed to Rome in January and Puerto Rico in the spring.
Final Thoughts
Homeschooling is freedom, responsibility, personal growth and teamwork all rolled into one. Sure, I love the flexibility and late mornings, but what makes it lit for me is being part of the decisions, setting my own goals, and growing through real experiences. Sure, sleeping in, starting school late, or dealing with screen-time limits makes me roll my eyes sometimes but I get to learn my way, live on my own schedule, and still fit in epic gaming sessions.
So yeah, homeschool life? I wouldn’t have it any other way. I think I like this blog thing may have to convince mom to let me write again.
Little Learner and Mom 