High School, Interest Led, Keeping it real, Middle School, Mom Life, Oak Meadow, Planning

“We Tried Other Options… But Oak Meadow Brought Our Homeschool Back Home.”

Homeschooling high school can feel like stepping into unfamiliar territory for many families. The stakes feel higher, the planning becomes more intentional, and the pressure to “get it right” can be overwhelming. This year in our homeschool was certainly eventful, filled with experimentation, reflection, and ultimately a powerful reminder of what works best for our family. From the beginning of our homeschool journey since 5th grade, Oak Meadow has been a steady and comforting presence in our home. Its thoughtful structure, rich literature, and academically rigorous approach have always aligned with how we want learning to feel deep, meaningful, and student-centered.

A Unique Transition Into High School

Like many homeschool families, we don’t follow a perfectly traditional grade structure. We often run a mixed-grade homeschool, allowing learning to progress naturally rather than strictly by grade level. This year, we wrapped up much of our Oak Meadow 8th-grade coursework in early fall, which allowed us to transition into 9th-grade material later in the fall semester. That flexibility is one of the things I value most about Oak Meadow it supports real learning rather than rigid timelines.

Lessons Learned Along the Way

One of the biggest lessons I learned this year came from a mistake. At one point, I thought my homeschooler needed an online biology class to round out his high school experience. Very quickly, it became clear that it wasn’t the right fit for him or for our homeschool rhythm. I corrected that decision and ordered Oak Meadow Biology, and the difference was immediate. He was elated to be back in a learning environment that felt familiar, engaging, and supportive of how he learns best. And honestly, I was too.

The Courses That Shaped Our Year

This year we explored several Oak Meadow high school courses, each bringing something special to our homeschool. Hero’s Journey has been one of our favorites. We paired the course with our own literature selections, including The Hobbit and Children of Blood and Bone. One of the beautiful things about Oak Meadow is how easily the curriculum can be personalized. You are given a strong academic foundation, but there is always room to expand and follow your student’s interests. We loved this course so much that we plan to continue Hero’s Journey through the rest of this school year and finish it in Fall 2026. World Geography also took us on an incredible learning adventure. The course covers both physical and human geography, helping students refine their geographic skills while also understanding how culture, environment, and society interact across the globe. Coincidentally, we began the South America unit right around Super Bowl season, which added an extra layer of excitement to our discussions about the region.

Our Personal Finance course has also been incredibly practical. We started Unit 1 in December, which focuses on consumer skills and banking. One of the things I love most about this book is that it’s divided into five independent units, allowing us to stretch the remaining four units across the next four years of high school. This allows the material to stay relevant as my son grows older and encounters real-world financial decisions. Now we didn’t use the Oak Meadow Algebra 1 course as our spine we did use it as supplemental. The algebra curriculum is wonderful and still gives you the same rigor that you would have expect from Oak Meadow.

Why Oak Meadow Works So Well for Us

As I began officially planning our 9th-grade year, I sat my son down and asked him an important question:

What do you want your high school homeschool to look like?

His answer was immediate and clear. He told me he wanted to stay with Oak Meadow for high school. He even asked that we avoid adding outside curriculum, with the exception of two programs he genuinely enjoys. That moment confirmed something for me: when a curriculum resonates with your child, learning becomes smoother, deeper, and more joyful. For our family, that means we will likely remain an Oak Meadow family until the very end of our homeschool journey.

A Rigorous Curriculum That Can Grow With Your Student

Oak Meadow offers an in-depth, rigorous academic program that is fully capable of supporting college-bound students. What makes it even more powerful is its flexibility. Courses can easily be adapted to meet Honors or AP-level expectations, allowing families to increase academic rigor while still maintaining the curriculum’s holistic approach to learning.

The Biology course, in particular, is a standout. Oak Meadow includes the latest Miller & Levine Biology textbook, paired with access to Savvas learning resources, which adds an excellent digital component. I was also incredibly impressed that the course includes literature connected to the science topics, helping students explore scientific ideas through both analytical and narrative lenses.

Preparing for College — Without Losing Childhood

My son is college bound, and I take that responsibility seriously. I have spoken with multiple college counselors to ensure we are on the right track with course selection, rigor, and transcript planning.

Across the board, I heard the same thing:  Oak Meadow’s high school curriculum is considered top tier.

This year we also introduced SAT test preparation, and next year we plan to integrate it more consistently into our weekly routine. But along the way, I had to learn an important lesson as a homeschool parent.

  1. I had to quiet the outside noise.
  2. I had to stop second-guessing myself.

And I had to stop trying to race to the finish line.

My child is barely thirteen years old. High school should not mean the end of curiosity, creativity, or joy. We still want time for hands-on projects, interest-led learning, volunteering, clubs, and simply being a kid. He has a lifetime to be an adult.

Building a Meaningful High School Experience

While academics matter, our homeschool high school plan includes more than just coursework. We are intentionally building a transcript that reflects:

  • Strong academics
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Passion projects
  • Community service
  • Exploration of his future career interests

Oak Meadow has made this process easier because the curriculum already provides a solid academic backbone. Instead of scrambling to piece together courses, I can focus on helping my son grow into the person he is becoming. For the past two years, I’ve also attended the Oak Meadow College Planning Seminars, taking detailed notes and learning directly from the curriculum team about preparing homeschool students for college admissions. Oak Meadow also provides samples of the curriculum on their website. Oak Meadow website also has helpful planning pages and transcript template. Those seminars alone have given me tremendous confidence in the path we are on.

A Final Word to Fellow Homeschool Moms

If you are approaching the high school years and feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or pressured to piece together a dozen different programs just to “do it right,” I want to encourage you to pause and take a look at Oak Meadow High School. Oak Meadow offers something that is surprisingly rare in high school education today: rigor without burnout, structure without rigidity, and academic depth without sacrificing creativity.

It allows families to build a serious college-preparatory education while still protecting the heart of homeschooling freedom, curiosity, and connection. For our family, Oak Meadow has removed the hardest part of homeschooling high school: the constant worry about whether we are choosing the right path. Instead, it has given us the confidence to move forward, enjoy the journey, and trust that our child is growing  academically without losing the joy of learning along the way. And that, to me, is the greatest success a homeschool curriculum can offer.

Homeschool, Keeping it real, Mom Life, Parenting, Perimenopause, We Do Not Care

Homeschooling Through the Hormone Hurricane: Middle Schoolers, Mood Swings, and the Magic of “We Don’t Care”

Let’s Be Real: Middle School Is Already a Wild Ride

Homeschooling middle school is not for the faint of heart. Between growth spurts, emotional whiplash, and the “new” version of your kid who woke up this morning suddenly too cool for phonics, it’s a whole job. Now imagine doing all that while you’re riding the hot, unpredictable wave of perimenopause. Y’all. I’m not saying we deserve medals, but give us a trophy shelf at least.

Wait…Is It Me or My Hormones?

If you’ve been homeschooling for a while, you probably know how to spot the signs of burnout: constant fatigue, lack of motivation, crying over your printer jamming (again). But what if those same symptoms aren’t just burnout? What if they’re hormones knocking at the door like, “Surprise! It’s me—Perimenopause.”

Here are a few signs you might be navigating that stage while also being the headmistress of your homeschool:

  • Sleepless nights…even though you’re exhausted.
  • Mood swings that feel like a bad tween novel.
  • Crying at the drop of a pencil (or because you actually dropped a pencil).
  • Forgetting where you put your glasses (while they’re on your head), sipping cold coffee at 2pm, and wondering why you walked into the pantry.

Perimenopause + Middle School = Emotional Gymnastics

Let me paint you a picture: Your middle schooler is having thoughts. Big ones. About the world. About themselves. About why math is pointless and how they should never have to write another paragraph again. Meanwhile, you’re sweating through your third shirt and questioning why you picked any of this year’s curriculum.

At least once a week, I look at our lesson plans and want to toss them in the trash like a salad I knew we weren’t gonna eat.

Cue the “We Don’t Care” Movement

You know what saved me? An Instagram mama @justbeingmelani who boldly started the “We Don’t Care” movement. If you don’t know who she is RUN to her IG!!! The idea is simple and liberating: we’re doing our best and that’s enough. The house isn’t perfect, the lesson didn’t go as planned, the tears fell (mine and his)…and you know what? We don’t care.

Say it loud for the sweaty moms in the back:
We. Don’t. Care.

It’s permission to be human. To stop trying to be the Pinterest-perfect homeschooler when you’re just trying to survive another round of hormone-fueled highs and lows while your kid discovers sarcasm as a second language

How to Manage Perimenopause While Homeschooling (Without Losing Your Mind)

Here’s the good news you’re not alone, and you can manage this. Here’s how:

1. Check Your Hormones, Sis.. Before you switch curriculums again or rework your entire homeschool plan for the millionth time, check in with your doctor. A blood panel might tell you that what you thought was just burnout is actually a hormonal shift.

2. Create Buffer Days… Build “light days” into your homeschool week less academic pressure, more connection. This isn’t slacking off. It’s smart homeschooling that respects the energy of both teacher and student.

3. Find Your Homeschool People…Surround yourself with mamas who keep it real. You need at least one friend who’ll laugh with you when you’re crying over missing highlighters and who’ll text back “you’re not crazy, this is just hormones and middle school.” or when you having a moment they recognize the moment and listen don’t judge. For all my natural mamas’s I am 100% on board for the natural treatment methods. Just need to get those horomones checked.

4. Eat. Sleep. Move. Repeat.… Basic, I know. But blood sugar crashes, sleep deprivation, and zero movement make hormonal symptoms worse. Drink water like it’s your job. Stretch. Step outside. Take a walk without the kids. Eat the dang salad (unless you’re still mad about that one you threw away).

5. Talk to Your Kids (Yes, Even Your Tween) ….Explain age appropriately what you’re going through. It models self-awareness and gives them permission to speak up about their changing emotions too. Who knew homeschool could be group therapy?

6. Learn Your Triggers…I have been working on how I respond to people. Keeping my cool and not stepping all the way out character. So far I have been doing really well staying calm. Because baby I be ready to let it rip when I am having a moment.

When You See a Fellow Mama Spiraling…

Say something. Gently. With love. Send a text like,
“Hey, are you okay? Or are you on your third coffee and crying over cursive like I was last week?”

Drop off a smoothie. Send a meme. Better yet, offer to co-op one afternoon and give her a break. Because sometimes we need someone else to recognize we’re on the hormone rollercoaster before we do.

Middle School Homeschoolers Don’t Help…But They’re Not the Enemy

Let’s not forget these little hormonal humans we’re raising are going through it too. One minute they’re laughing at fart jokes, the next they’re contemplating the meaning of life at 9:15 AM on a Tuesday while refusing to read the next chapter of their novel study.

They’re pulling away and needing us all at once. They’re learning to think critically, argue everything, and feel deeply about things like snack options. It’s a mess. But it’s also kind of beautiful, if we pause to see it.

Final Thoughts: We’re in This Together

Homeschooling through perimenopause isn’t a joke but laughing about it might save your sanity.

So the next time you’re mid-meltdown with a crying tween, a cold coffee in one hand and a broken dry-erase marker in the other, just remember:

You’re not crazy. You’re perimenopausal.

You’re not failing. You’re homeschooling.

And most of all…

We. Don’t. Care.

We care deeply about our kids. But we don’t care to be perfect. That’s not the assignment.